Hello my babies. I wanted to share a realization/thought/philosophy I am currently working toward employing in my life. I have realized that it is pretty hard to
heal your life when you’re constantly looking at it from an emotional
perspective. Looking at yourself through the eyes of someone who is trying to
protect you, rather than induce you to be your best self is debilitating, as it usually
allows you to create excuses and stay trapped as a less evolved person. Thus, it
seems, the only way to cure the problems that ail you is to view yourself from
an objective position. How would a complete stranger view you if they saw a day
in your life? What problems would they point out? How would they advise you to
go about changing?
What caused me to think about this is how easy it seems to
be for us to look at other people and pick out exactly what is halting their
progress. Amongst my close friends, I am almost always a person who is gone to
for advice. Why not employ what seems to be a natural ability in my own life?
Not doing so would be quite foolish.
It is hard to admit what your problems are, but it’s even
harder to live with them everyday. Take the time to elevate your thoughts
enough to help yourself without feeling bad or making excuses about who you
are. I’m about to go hippie on your ass, Fo Realz, so brace yourself: In looking at
myself objectively I sometimes like to literally picture my soul lifting out
of my body and looking down on myself and assessing the situation in a loving,
kind, yet constructive way. You certainly don't have to do this, but whatever your normal person equivalent would be, go for it! Check yourself out! Really say, Who am I? And more importantly, Who did I come here to be? Then work toward aligning the answers of those questions.
Now I have a dear friend who is constantly overly critical
of himself, especially considering the fact that he is one of the most wildly
talented people I have ever met. A couple days ago I tweeted a short statement
about this objective assessment being a key to living a better life, and he
stated that when he looked at himself objectively, that’s when things go
downhill for him. That is not objective. I think people think that being ultra/overly
critical of oneself is objective, but that is more emotional than anything.
Telling yourself how terrible you are, rather than how you can take steps to
change, is a simple thought process, and in reality, just another excuse. Being objective just
means that you’re looking at your life at face value. Seeing it exactly as it
is, outside of any expectations you may have had.
If someone
didn’t know you, and had no reason to be mean or kind to you looked at you, what would they
say about your life, and how would they advise you to carry on most
effectively? This is the question! It is lifting yourself from your baggage and saying, “How can I
make this better with the tools and experiences I have at my disposal?” “What
moves could I make that would create a most complete life?” You can’t let past
baggage and fear of not being perfect get in the way of healing yourself at
present. You’re a heck of a lot less perfect when you don’t even know what’s
holding you back, than when you’re aware and working toward change and
healing.
So try it out today—and report back and let me know how it
goes! I’m working toward the same endeavor, so I’ll keep you updated.
Love,
Lo :-)
