Monday, August 20, 2012

Better Youself: Look At Your Life From An Objective Perspective- IT RHYMES!


Hello my babies. I wanted to share a realization/thought/philosophy I am currently working toward employing in my life. I have realized that it is pretty hard to heal your life when you’re constantly looking at it from an emotional perspective. Looking at yourself through the eyes of someone who is trying to protect you, rather than induce you to be your best self is debilitating, as it usually allows you to create excuses and stay trapped as a less evolved person. Thus, it seems, the only way to cure the problems that ail you is to view yourself from an objective position. How would a complete stranger view you if they saw a day in your life? What problems would they point out? How would they advise you to go about changing?

What caused me to think about this is how easy it seems to be for us to look at other people and pick out exactly what is halting their progress. Amongst my close friends, I am almost always a person who is gone to for advice. Why not employ what seems to be a natural ability in my own life? Not doing so would be quite foolish.

It is hard to admit what your problems are, but it’s even harder to live with them everyday. Take the time to elevate your thoughts enough to help yourself without feeling bad or making excuses about who you are. I’m about to go hippie on your ass, Fo Realz, so brace yourself: In looking at myself objectively I sometimes like to literally picture my soul lifting out of my body and looking down on myself and assessing the situation in a loving, kind, yet constructive way. You certainly don't have to do this, but whatever your normal person equivalent would be, go for it! Check yourself out! Really say, Who am I? And more importantly, Who did I come here to be? Then work toward aligning the answers of those questions.

Now I have a dear friend who is constantly overly critical of himself, especially considering the fact that he is one of the most wildly talented people I have ever met. A couple days ago I tweeted a short statement about this objective assessment being a key to living a better life, and he stated that when he looked at himself objectively, that’s when things go downhill for him. That is not objective. I think people think that being ultra/overly critical of oneself is objective, but that is more emotional than anything. Telling yourself how terrible you are, rather than how you can take steps to change, is a simple thought process, and in reality,  just another excuse. Being objective just means that you’re looking at your life at face value. Seeing it exactly as it is, outside of any expectations you may have had.

 If someone didn’t know you, and had no reason to be mean or kind to you looked at you, what would they say about your life, and how would they advise you to carry on most effectively? This is the question! It is lifting yourself from your baggage and saying, “How can I make this better with the tools and experiences I have at my disposal?” “What moves could I make that would create a most complete life?” You can’t let past baggage and fear of not being perfect get in the way of healing yourself at present. You’re a heck of a lot less perfect when you don’t even know what’s holding you back, than when you’re aware and working toward change and healing.

So try it out today—and report back and let me know how it goes! I’m working toward the same endeavor, so I’ll keep you updated.

Love,

Lo :-) 

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